A month back, a colleague who later became a friend quoted a common phrase, but I could feel it resonating deep in my heart and leaving a cold chill slithering down my spine. He said, "Gender Based Violence is the face of a woman".
I remember trying to push it to the back of my mind but to this day my attempts are still in vain; for i still bear sleepless nights because of the nightmarish ordeals I have suffered in the hands of men (the lovers, friends, relatives). I don't think I will ever feel completely safe while in the presence of men. I don't think I could ever love nor trust so deeply because of men. Yes! You say there are not all monsters; but how are we as women suppose to differentiate cause the monsters start as promising lovers, brothers & relatives.
Honestly though, I despair that I was born in such a country where the marginalisation of women has been standardised such that even the women themselves have accepted it as a norm.
Eswatini, my country; women are much more than broodmares, cooks, victims of abuse. Our presence equals that of a thousand men. If you pay my bride price, that doesn't mean you own me. If I submit under you, that doesn't mean I am yours to do as you will... I am much more than just a woman; I am your future