Title: When should I start dating?* Auth Sirari

Title: When should I start dating?* Author: _Sassi Sassi.

Dated: April 8, 2020.

To most of youth, young boys and girls these days, the question on when is the right time for one to start dating has remained an endless debate awhe unanswered cry, the cry that read astray alot of friends, family members, schoolmates, neighbours and the social media family, as it has been and I still a question with no answers of which I do not have as well.

So many jamb questions like should I start dating when I'm of a certain age, when I'm done with school, when I'm at certain level while in the university where I'll be free, when I have enough cash or even when one asks me to do so. The questions have remained rhetorical one.

The questions have remained to be what I can call the silent killing gun that hunts and drives to hell most of youths if not all.

At one point in life I thought that getting old is itself enough as a solution to the relational affairs and it's related problems, of which recently I found the answer to be NO a big no as there are so many elderly people who seek divorce and separation orders with their spauses each day around doors of courts of law and marriage reconciliatory boards.

I wonder and ask myself did any of the two blander in making the right timing for the relation affairs, something that makes their timing bad for timing relational affairs. I do not know either.

One friend of mine sometimes used to say to me that he cannot date/start dating since he argued not having enough money to take good care of the person he will be dating.

This as well paused a question as should one start dating when he/she has enough money to provide in the expected relationship?.

Literally NO since there are so many wealthy people I know who have no peace in their relationships and there are plenty of middle and low income people who are happy with their relationship.

Everyone has his/her own question and answers when it comes to a point of dating. Over years none has come with a genuine answer on the questions instead everyone has tried to come with his/her theoretical assumption that in some cases even doesn't relate to theirs hence not reflecting the reality.

This makes such assumptions bad to relay genuinely despite any case my be.

This comes due to the fact that we are never equal and never will be even once, we aren't the same or homogeneous as human being making a certain assumption that worked better to somebody X it not being necessary to work in the same manner to Y.

This reminds me of Dr Myles Munroe, a celebrated write and preacher who wrote in his book titled Dating and waiting a potentil book I suggest you get a copy of it. In the book Dr Munroe tries to answer the same question as a grown up man, father, husband, Pastor, writer and critical thinker. He provides no right or direct answer to the questions since our timelines tends to differ from one person to another, instead he offers us a better way to follow.

Dating starts from oneself before one practically starts to look for a mate for such purpose. This is the only and right time one can make critical analysis on the benefits and challenges of dating. Depending on one's timeline when one gets to grasp what are the expected advantages and disadvantages which can be foreseen.

And such that one has been at a position to keep the advantages more of positive and the disadvantages turning them to blessings then this is the time one can start dating.

Why is it so?

One is at a position to have mechanisms of managing all the risks likely to having rise out of the relationship and handle them appropriately.

One is at a position to have reasons to love such that he/she be kept holding when things are not in order in their relationship.

This will keep everyone bound to the relationship to the extent of not being ready to be kept away the other, making a perfect combo.

Everyone can have his own time for that as it's quite impossible to have it all at once, everyone can have his/her reasoning on it and this is how it is supposed to be since

the beauty is within the eyes of the beholder as we all concur to it.

Everyone has his/her own reason to love

this is naturally and that is how it has been and will be.

Everyone needs love, life is naturally love.

Dating should be the one with purpose otherwise it will be time wasting worth to call absurdity.

Relations issues are purely such that none will at one point run from them in life, playing it smart is crucial to everyone of us than being quite away from it for a happily living worth to live.

@Nguvu ya Maarifa.


Nickson Am afraid i will stand with your friend, love is euphemism for money, you need to have enough money before you get into serious relationship. The question isn't "when", it's "how much do you have".... nice article Sassi?
Sassi Sassi Yes brother money is yes important in relationship but not a determinant of a happy dating so we need to watch out and handle the two aspects appropriately. Respect Nicky the crazy genious
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When we say education, the first thought we get is education is the process of gaining knowledge. It is the process of facilitating learning or training and acquiring knowledge, skills, values, beliefs, and ethics.

Education can be in the way of either formal or informal.

I believe that everyone in this world does acquire knowledge whether it’s by informal way from our elders, ancestors or by the formal way like going to school, college, university, etc.

Why do we acquire knowledge, how does it help us in our daily life?

We acquire knowledge on what we believe in future we shall thrive to become someone in our lives. We all have a goal and target on what we wish to become in the future, and not only are some of us still researching more options on what we want to become in the future.

It is excellent as you may get hundreds of opinions, but in the end, there will be only one opinion which will be the best of all and education in our daily life helps us both in our career and life as well.

To have a promising career, you need to get an education first. Education shows us the importance of hard work and thus helps us grow and develop in our life, and it allows us to differentiate between many things, including right and wrong, good and bad, etc.

Nowadays, education has become a joke in this generation because some people are not ready to work hard. They are unable to define their goals, targets, and what they want to become in life and are not focused on their career; my aim is not to point out to anyone but want to say that in generalit's hight time please take charge of your life, pass through the difficulties arising, be patient. In the end, things will be easier.


In the end, a person will have a promising career and will succeed in achieving their goals or targets.


When I say career, I mean it is an individual’s journey through learning, education, and all other aspects of life. It is an occupation or profession undertaken which usually involves training and teaching followed by one’s lifework.

A career cannot be achieved without hard work; To build a promising career and a bright future, a person needs to be hardworking, educated, and trained.

To be successful and have a career, a person must be passionate and interested in the chosen occupation or profession. The person must work with joy and excitement, enjoy the work the person is doing, and be determined.

A great career is whatever job you have that makes you want to work every morning, and it’s never about the pay or benefits.

Create different opportunities for a promising career because prospects don’t happen just like that, but you create them.

Always never give up on anything and go on with the choice that scares you because that’s the one that is going to help you grow, and in case of failures, don’t stop, keep going because failures are a part of life, if you don’t fail, you don’t learn if you don’t learn you’ll never change.


Work hard and build the foundation strong to build a great career and never accept defeat without trying and have confidence in yourself and at the end you will surely get success.


Nothing is impossible in this world; the word itself says I’m possible !!!!


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*Free Yourself*

*Forgiveness* is a worth voluntary action. After someone deeply hurts us in our daily life, forgiveness is a remedy we mostly choose when we ready to move on and especially when the love in our hearts speaks louder than temporary hate.

In a world where *revenge* seems at peak and it brings more satisfaction and relief to people, it takes courage and strength to opt for forgiveness, said *a priest in a homily.*

*As a matter of fact* experience reveals that, many people have complicated feelings about apologies and not all our thoughts and feelings about apologies *[forgiveness]* line up.

And that's why, to some people, an apology often feels like an admission that they are inadequate that, rather than having done a mistake, there is something wrong with them while some people feel ashamed until they are done with an apology.

I was very impressed by a quotation stating that, to forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that, the prisoner was you.

When reflecting the said quotation, I therefore, recalled some situations in our childhood where most of us were forced to apologize after hurting someone or after doing something wrong.

Most of us apologized freely and left immediately better after having done so. If the outcome of our forced apologies made us feel far better, then why don't we turn forgiveness into a *living custom* in order to have a constant inner peace throughout our life??

One of my best friends argues that, if forgiveness is of such importance, are the courts, laws and prisons useless??

There is actually a taste of reality in that argument, but it is not right in the eyes of molarity and that's why, there is a *Korean idiom* stating that, forgiveness says you are given another chance to make a new beginning.

*To tell you the truth* no matter how badly people treat you, never drop to their levels. Just choose to forgive them in order to set yourself free from a prison of hate, revenge and grudges because they are too heavy for a good heart.

*In most circumstances* those who have a courage to forgive others, are presumed to be stronger than those who cannot. And that's why, the weak can never forgive, forgiveness is the attribute of the strong, said the late *Mahatma Ghandhi*

The challenge is, the only downfall of having a good heart is that, you are constantly looking for angels inside of demons. And, they wonder why the good knows so much pain. And that's why, forgiveness should never be an excuse of hurting others for when an action is repeated after an apology, it becomes a habit.

Forgiveness warms the heart and cools the sting therein. Just say *I'm sorry and they will listen to your story* That's the beauty of forgiveness.

-Nicodemus Nangale @nguvuyamaarifa

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Dil karbala main reh gaya main Aa gaya yahan

Halaat apny doston k sy karon bayan.

Qaisar Abbas Qaisar

Writer / Poet

Written these lines in 2017

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“‘Be thankful’ (Colossians 3:15) is a recurring exhortation in the letters of the apostle Paul. No other New Testament writer gives such a sustained emphasis on thanksgiving―and yet, major modern studies of Paul fail to wrestle with it. Dr. Paul Allieu Kamara aims to rehabilitate this theme in this comprehensive and accessible study, a New Studies in Biblical Theology volume. He shows how, for Paul, thanksgiving is grounded in the covenantal traditions of salvation history. To offer thanks to God is to live a life of worship and to anticipate the future acts of God, all in submission to the lordship of Christ. Ingratitude to God is idolatry. Thanksgiving functions as a link between theology, including eschatology, and ethics. Here Dr. Paul Allieu Kamara provides clear insights into the passion of an apostle who never fails to insist on the significance of both the gospel message and the response this message demands. Addressing key issues in biblical theology, the works comprising New Studies in Biblical Theology are creative attempts to help Christians better understanding their Bibles. The NSBT series is edited by D. A. Carson, aiming to simultaneously instruct and to edify, to interact with current scholarship and to point the way ahead.”

“What Christians believe about God is visible in how they exhibit thankfulness for all he has done on their behalf. Dr. Paul Allieu Kamara offers a practical resource to encourage believers to express glad-hearted thankfulness for God’s unending provision. This book provides insight into daily practices that exemplify thankfulness, such as speaking a word of thanks to a neighbor, serving others in a practical way, or thanking God for his many gifts.

By living each day with gratitude in mind, Christians are doing more than saying a word of thanks or lending a helping hand – they are recognizing the absolute and total lordship of God, his sovereignty over all things, and his kindness in using his almighty power to work all things for good.”

“The apostle Paul instructed the Philippians to be anxious in nothing and thankful in everything. And when he said everything – he meant everything. We can all agree that this is easier said than done. Disappointments and discontent may cause you to slip into dissatisfaction, and grumbling becomes a state of mind – gratitude seems impossible to find. However, what if this is the precise reason you lack the joy of a God-filled life? Instead of a reaction to when things are going well, what if gratitude is actually necessary to knowing the hope of our gracious God?

This is exactly what Dr. Paul Allieu Kamara identifies in The Thanksgiving a price paid for life and living. Dr. Kamara examines the biblical foundations of thankfulness and traces how it can reshape every-day Christian living. When we express gratitude in all things, we not only praise our Creator, we also get to know Him better. With This Book, you’ll learn how to practice thanksgiving in both simple and extraordinary ways, even when you’re tempted to dwell on the negative. You’ll find your outlook on life realigned to see the hand of God in everything, strengthening your trust in Him. And in doing so, you’ll find greater, more joy-filled reasons to continue expressing thanks to our good and generous God.” I recommend this Book to be read and as you do God bless you.

BY Prof. Rudolph Q. Kwanue Sir

Founder, Chancellor and International Director

Rudolph Kwanue University College


Gratitude is a choice. If we fail to choose it, by default we choose ingratitude. And once allowed into the heart, ingratitude does not come by itself, but with other seedy companions that only succeed in stealing joy.

Derived from a popular Revive Our Hearts story, choosing the need for Gratitude the Journey to Joy challenges and equips the reader to live a life of intention, a life based on thankfulness for the freedom Christ has provided and for the blessings of others.

By intentionally thanking God and others, bitterness and entitlement are replaced with joy and the humble realization of just how undeserving we really are.

To not choose gratitude is more costly than we usually realize. When we do choose a lifestyle of heartfelt, humble gratitude, we are mindful of the benefits received from our gracious Savior and those He has placed around us, and our joy becomes full.”

“How to grow as thankful Person of God.

We are often encouraged to ‘count our blessings’. But truly biblical gratitude is much more than this.

Dr. Paul Allieu Kamara unpacks Scripture to help us grow in gracious gratitude—thanking God for who he is, as well as natural gratitude— thanking him for his blessings. She also helps women to identify and deal with some of the things that hinder them so that they can rediscover the joy of a thankful heart.

This thoroughly Bible-centered unpacking of the reasons for gratitude builds on Dr. Paul Allieu Kamara 14 years’ experience in mentoring, Pastoring and Teaching at The Word of Faith Bible Institute and Rudolph Kwanue University College and Grace International Bible University.

Discussion questions at the end of each chapter make this book ideal for group use as well as for individuals.”

The reason for this Book

1. I gave a lecture on the life of Thanksgiving at a graduation Ceremony in 2021, which was held at Lofa County, in the Republic of Liberia.

2. I gave another lecture at Winners Chapel International New London Bo, on Friday 16th May 2019 and its topic was ‘ The Power of thanksgiving and always give thanks for all things ‘ (Eph. 5:20)

3. Also, a third lecture - on our Word of Faith Bible Institute Program, on 15th October 2020 mainly on the Life of Thanksgiving, and a part on the Life of Submission and Hope.

GOD gave me time during my trip to Liberia last year so I combined the three lectures, with many additions in one book on the ‘thanksgiving is a price to paid for life and living’ which is now on your hands published as book with contemplations on the prayer of Thanksgiving which was given by the word of God in the Bible. Which will be printed for church leaders and followers? I hope - God’s willing – will reach you in good health in Jesus Mighty Name!

Pastor Dr. Paul Allieu Kamara

Resident Pastor

Winners Chapel International Waterloo



1. Every Thing that has breath should praise The Lord- Ps. 150:6

2. It is a good thing to give thanks to the Lord-Ps. 92:1

I discovered that the most expensive thing to managed in Man is life


1. We have life= we call it breath Ps. 150:6, in scriptures we called it breath and with God is free for 24 hours 30 days and 365 days per year

2. We have life = in science we called it Oxygen= for Medical Science is costly

· Oxygen per day cost = 1,200,000

· Oxygen per Month = 36,000,000

· Oxygen per year = 432,000,000

· Now if you are five years = 2,160,000,000

· Now if you are Ten years = 4,320,000,000

· Now if you are Twenty years =8,640,000,000

· Now if you are Thirty Nine years =1,044,000,000

· Now if you are Thirty years =12,960,000,000

· Now if you are forty years =17,280,000,000

· Now if you are fifty years = 21,600,000,000

· Now if you are sixty years =25,920,000,000

· Now if you are seventy years=30,240,000,000

· We all owe God according to our ages

Do you see why we must give God Thanks?

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