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HUMAN PSYCHOLOGY AND MENTAL HEALTH IN TEENS

ISHAM SAPKOTA

THE FUNCTIONALITY AND WORKING OF THE HUMAN MIND HAS ALWAYS REMAINED A MYSTERY TO EVERYONE CONCERNED.HUMAN PSYCHOLOGY IS A FIELD OF SCIENCES PARTICULARLY FOCUSED IN UNARAVELLING THESE TRUTHS. LET’S DEFINE SOME TERMS

MENATLITY: GOOGLE DEFINES MENTALITY AS “THE CHARACTERISTIC WAY OF THINKING OF A PERSON OR A GROUP” MENTALITY IS NOT ONLY CONFINED TO THE WAY A PERSON THINKS BUT IS ALSO CONCERNED WITH THE WAY THE ACT AND BEHAVE IN VARIOUS SITUATIONS THAT STIMULATE NERVOUS IMPULSES.

MENTAL HEALTH: INTERNET DEFINES MENTAL HEALTH AS “THE COGNITIVE, BEHAVIORAL AND EMOTIONAL WELL BEING TO SUCH EXTENT THAT A PERSON CAN THINK, FELL AND BEHAVE APPRORIATELY.” MENTAL HEALTH IS NO DOUBT THE MOST IMPORTANT WELL BEING OF A PERSON.

PSYCHOLOGY: IT IS THE STUDY OF MIND AND ITS BEHAVIOUR.

DEVELOPMENT OF HUMAN PSYCHOLOGY AND MENTAL HEALTH IS PRE-NATAL HOWEVER, AFTER REACHING A CERTAIN AGE IN LIFE MOSTLY 2-5 YEARS IS WHEN THE DEVELOPMENT IS RAPID AND OVERWHELMING.THIS DEVELOPMENTAL PHASE LASTS WELL UP TO PRELIMINARY YOUTHS. THE CRUCIAL THING IS TO UNDERSTAND HOW IMPORTANT MENTAL AND PSYCHOLOGICAL ISSUES DURING THESE TIMES SHAPE OUR PERSONALITY IN THE FUTURE.

AS A REPRESENTATOR OF THE VERY AGE GROUP, HERE ARE SOME SECTORS WHERE MENTAL STRESS AMONG TEENS AND YOUTHS IS ABUNDANT:

SEXUALITY AND PREFERENCES

THE BEGINNING YEARS OF ADOLENCENSE TRIGGER MANY QUESTIONS ABOUT ONESELF AND THEIR ASPIRATIONS.THE MOMENT OF REALIZATION I HAD WAS AT THE RIPE AGE OF 14 WHEN I FIRST ASKED MYSELF WHY IT FELT WEIRD.THE STRANGE FEELING USHES THROUGH YOUR BODY MAKING YOU FEEL ENTIRELY DIFFERENT.ONE ALSO BEEGINS TO ASK THEMSELVES QUESTIONS ABOUT SEXUALITY AND THEIR SEXUAL PREFERANCES. WITH MANY MISLEADING ARTICLES ABUNDANT ON THE WORLD WIDE WEB AND THE RELUCTANCE TO SHARE THEIR THOUGHTS TO THEMSELVES LET ALONE ANYONE ELSE CAUSES PRELIMINARY MENTAL STRESS, TRAUMA AND BREAKDOWN. HERE IS A SIMPLE INSTANCE I GATHERED FROM A SOURCE, IN A PATRIACAL COUNTRY LIKE NEPAL, BEING OF AN IDENTITY IS RATHER TOUGH. THIS IS A CASE OF A YOUNG BOY WHO QUESTIONED HIMSELF FROM THE AGE OF 15. PROGRESSING HIS WAY THROUGH HIS FEELINGS, EMOTIONS AND THOUGHTS HE WAS IN A MENTAL DISPUTE WITH HIMSELF ABOUT HIS SEXUAL IDENTITY. AS REVEALED LATER, THE MAIN DISPUTE WASN’T BETWEEN HIS THOUGHTS BUT RATHER THE COMMUNAL THOUGHTS IMPOSED ON YOUNG CHILDS FROM A VERY YOUNG AGE.IN HIS DISPUTED STATE OF MIND, HIS MIND OPPOSED HIS VERY THOUGHTS. THIS LEADS TO A SERIES OF STRESS, LOSS OF INTLLECT AND OTHER SIMILAR PROBLEMS.WITH THE HELP OF A PSYCHIATRIST, THE BOY FINALLY RELEASED HIMSELF OF THE STRESS HE BORE FOR THE PAST 5 YEARS. BUT NOT ALL PEOPLE COME THROUGH SIMILARLY. MANY OF THE READERS MIGHT AGREE TO WHAT I MIGHT SAY, BUT THERE ARE THINGS ABOUT SEXUALITY AND PREFERENCES WE RATHER NOT TELL ANYONE WHICH MIGHT INCLUDE SEXUAL FETISHES,PORN ADDICTION, HOMOSEXUALITY, SEX ITSELF AND AUTO EROTICISM.THE SOLE TABOO PREVALENT IN THE COMMUNITTEES AND THE UTTER FEAR OF BEING JUDGED BY PEERS IS WHAT KEEP THE YOUNG MINDS SHUT.IN TURN THIS INABILITY OF COMMUNICATION STAYS INSIDE THEM URGING THEM TO INDULGE AND PREVENTING THEM FROM INDULGING SIMULTANEOUSLY. THE RESULT IS A RATHER HARSH STRESS RESULTING TO UNFORTUNATE CONCEQUENCES FROM SELF HARM TO MENTAL ILLNESS.MENTAL ISSUES AND CONCERNS IN THIS FIELD IN PARTICULAR YEILDS MORE ATTENTION FROM THE COMMUNITY. EXPOSURE TO IDEAS AND KNOWLEDGE HAS ALLOWED YOUTHS TO EXPLORE THEMSELVES AND COME TO NEW CONCLUSIONS ABOUT THEMSELVES AND THEIR SEXUAL PREFERENCES. WHAT NEEDS TO BE DONE IS OPENING UP. SOME PEOPLE FEAR THEIR IDENTITY. THEY ARE UNWILLING TO ACCEPT THEMSELVES. THE MAIN REASON I POINT OUT IS THE SOCIAL DISLIKE OF SUCH THOUGHTS.SEXUALITY IS RATHER FLUID AND VAST. ONE NEED NOT LABEL THEMSELVES OR CLING TO AN IDENTITY OR FEAR IT AT ALL. ONE CAN ALWAYS COME UP TO THEIR OWN DEFINITION OF THEIR SEXUALITY AND DICUSS OPENLY. THE SOLE JUDGEMENTAL SIDE TO ANY STORY MUST BE IGNORED SO AS TO BRING IMPROVEMENT IN TEEN MENTAL WELL BEING.

OVERWHELMING EMOTIONS

THERE IS A NOTION AMONG PEOPLE THAT THE INCREASE IN PRODUCTION OF VARIOUS HORMONES TRIGGERS EMOTIONAL INTELLECT AMONG TEENS TO DEVELOP. HOWEVER, THE EMOTIONS GO FAR BEYOND LOVE AND HATE. TEENS MOSTLY GET OVERPOWERED BY GREED, JEALOUSY AND THE COMMON OF ALL LUST. THESE FEELINGS NOT ONLY DON’T DEVELOP ALONE BUT RATHER TRIGGER EACH OTHER. JEALOUSY ARISES IN A TEEN COMMONLY DUE TO PEERS. THE IDEA OF S/HE GETTING SOMETHING DIFFERENT- BE IT A ROMANTIC COMPANIONSHIP, SEXUAL RELATIONS OR SIMPLY MATERIAL PLEASURES. THESE DESIRES GET SO OVERWHELMING THAT ONE CAN KEEP THINKING ABOUT IT NON-STOP FOR DAYS MAYBE EVEN WEEKS.THIS FEELING OF JEALOUSY TURNS TO HATE RATHER QUICKLY. BEING NEW TO THE CONCEPT OF LOVE AND SOCIAL RELATIONSHIPS, MOST TEENS OFTEN BETRAYED SUFFER TREMENDOUS MENTAL HARDSHIPS. THIS MENTAL STRESS CAN LEAD TO SEVERAL PSYCHOLOGICAL ISSUES AND IN RARE CASES MAKES ONE SO PESSIMESTIC THEY’D RATHER HARM THEMSELVES OR OTHERS THAN TALK.

EXPOSURE TO CONTENTS ON THE WEB

THERE IS NO DOUBT THAT THE TEENS THESE DAYS ARE HAVING EXPOSURE TO DIVERSE CONTENT NOW THAT ACCESS TO INTERNET AND THE WORLD WIDE WEB IS EASY AND CONVINIENT. THE GENERAL WEB IS RATHER HARMLESS BUT THE VIVID INFORMATION THAT A TEEN SHOULD ATTAIN GRADUALLY IS AT THEIR ARSENAL FROM A VERY EARLY AGE.THIS INCLUDES ANSWERS TO VARIOUS CURIOUSITY ABOUT SEX, PORNS AND MASTURBATION, GORE ETC.THIS LEADS TO SEXUAL EXCITATION AT A VERY YOUNG AGE. THIS EXPOSURE CERTAINLY LEAVES A MENTAL SCAR AMONG THE BEGINNING TEENS. AFTER SUCH EXPOSURES, THEY ARE MORE LIABLE TO IMPLEMENT IT IN THEIR LIVES WHICH LEADS TO RAPES, TEEN PREGNANCIES AND EVEN ATTEMPT TO MURDER. THE THINGS THEY SEE IMPACTS THE WAY THEY THINK, AN ACT TREACHEROUS LIKE MURDER AND TORTURE SEEMS SIMPLE TO THEM. THEY FEEL LIKE THESE ARE DO ABLE ACTIONS.THIS IS ALSO A MAJOR REASON FOR MENTAL STRESS THAT TEENS ENDURE THESE DAYS.

SUMMING UP, THESE ARE THE MAIN REASONS THAT I CONSIDER IMPACT THE MENTAL WELL BEING OF TEENS THESE DAYS. HOWEVER, DUE TO MY LITTLE EXPOSURE TO THIS ISSUE AND RELUCTANCY IN SURVEYS STANDARD DATAS AND VALUES HAVEN’T BEEN GAINED.

SOLUTIONS TO THE AFOREMENTIONED MENTAL STRESS CAN BE

THE VERY JUDGEMENTAL THOUGHTS AMONG PEOPLES BOTH TEENS AND ADULT SHOULD BE MINIMIZED. IF WHAT A TEEN YOU KNOW IS BEING HIMSELF/HERSELF DOING NOTHING ILLEGAL, YOU DON’T NEED TO PUT YOUR OPINIONS FORWARD. A NUDGE IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION WILL WORK GOOD.

THE COUNSELLING FACILITIES IN EACH AND EVERY EDUCATIONAL INSTITUTIONS SHOULD NOT ONLY FOCUS ON ACADEMIC PROGRESS BUT RATHER BE FOCUSED ON THE HOLLISTIC WELL BEING OF THE TEEN.

ANONYMITY MUST BE MAINTAINED IF REQUESTED.

YOUTHS THEMSELVES SHOULD BOYCOTT SOCIAL TABOOS AND SILENCES WHICH PREVENTS THEMSELVES FROM BEING THE PERSON THEY ARE.

VIVE TU VIDA BUT BE OPEN ABOUT MENTAL HEALTH AND THE STRESS THAT YOU FEEL. TRUST ME EVERYTHING GETS BETTER.

सेल्फी डाडा

(लघुकथा)

शैलेन्द्र बिक्रम बिडारी

कोरोना माहामारी सुरु हुनु केहि अगाडी दुर्गा नगर बिकास समाज देखी बासुकी मन्दिर सम्म पुग्न १५० वटा पक्की सिडी सहितको भर्याङको निर्माण सम्पन्न भयो । सिडिको एकतर्फ फलामको बार राखेर सुरक्षित गर्ने काम पनि गरियो ।

डन्डिमा खिया नलागोस भनेर सिडिको बारमा निलो रङ लगाउदा आकर्षक देखियो ।रङ लगाउदै गर्दा एकजना कर्मचारिले पर्खालको भित्तामा लेखिदियो सेल्फी डाडा ।

कोरोना माहामरीको पहिलो लहर सुरु भई, लकडाउनको समय सबै तिर बन्द भएको र सबैलाई फुर्शद पनि भएकोले सेल्फी डाडामा दैनिक जसो मान्छेहरु आउने, सेल्फी खिच्ने, टिकटक भिडिओ बनाउने हरुको भिड नै लाग्न थाल्यो ।कुनै

बिशेष पर्यटकिय स्थलको जसरि नै सामाजिक सन्जालमा सेल्फी डाडा भाइरल नै भयो। साझ बिहान सिडिमा बसेर गफ्फिने, मर्निङ-इभिनिङ वाल्क गर्ने देखी सेल्फी डाडामा फोटो, भिडिओ खिच्नेहरुको भिड नै लाग्ने गरेकोले भिडभाड कम

गर्न भन्दै पुलिस नै आउने गर्न थल्यो । पुलिस आउँदा मानिशहरु आ-आफ्नो घर तिर गएजस्तो गर्ने अनि फेरी पुलिस फर्केपछी फेरी तेही जम्मा हुने गर्थे ।

यस्तैमा कोरोना माहामारीको दोस्रो लहर सगै दोस्रो लकडाउन सुरु भयो । सेल्फी डाडामा अहिले पनि मानिशहरुको उत्तिकै भिड लाग्ने गरेको छ । पहिले भन्दा अलि फरक अचेल सेल्फी डाडामा प्रेमी प्रेमिकाको जोडीहरु जम्मा हुने गरेका

छन । बाइक स्कुटरमा बासुकी मन्दिर सम्म आएर, सेल्फी डाडामा फोटो, भिडिओ खिच्ने, प्रेमिल गफमा रम्ने जोडीहरु लाई तर्साउने र सतर्क गराउन पुलिस दिनको ३,४ पटक आउने जाने गर्दछन ।

कोरोनाको तेस्रो लहर आउँदा पहिला जस्तो लकडाउन भएन । अफिस तथा सरकारी कार्यालय हरु पनि बन्द भएनन । कोरोना सगै मानिशहरु काम काजमा ब्यस्त हुन थालेका छन । केहि दिनला लागी गाडीमा जोर्-बिजोर प्रणाली लागु

गरिनुका साथै शैक्षिका संस्थाहरु बन्द हुँदा सेल्फी डाडामा स्कुले केटा केटिहरु जम्मा हुने फोटो खिच्ने, टिकटक भिडियो बनाउने गर्दछन ।

यतिबेला सेफी डाडामा जम्मा हुने मनिशहरमा निकै नै कमी आएको छ । अचेल सेल्फी डाडा गाजा, चुरोट खानेहरुको अखडा बनेको छ । मनिशहरको आउजाउ कम हुनुका साथै पुलिसहरु पनि आउन छाडेका छन ।साझ बिहान मात्र नभएर

दिनै भरी पनि कलीला उमेरका केटा केटिहरु सेल्फी डाडा वरिपरी जम्मा हुँदै चुरोट तन्ने गरेका छन । सेल्फी डाडाको बदलिएको अवस्थाले सबैलाई चिन्तीन पारेको छ ।

Shailendra Bikram Bidari

(https://ratokalam.com/news/detail/103676/)

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