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Parents should not limit their chaild's learning circle.
I am not a professional writer. I am writing for parents for the first time. I hope you will agree. This is my observation and experience.
It is commonly said that traits in children are passed on from parents to parents, and this is true. Children are attached to us parents for a while. This is the time when children cannot sit and this period ends when children learn to walk and speak on their own. After learning to walk and talk, children begin to learn about people other than their parents, including people in the neighborhood, shopkeepers, school car drivers, school and in-school workers.
The child's learning circle gradually increases, but I observe that we parents take steps to limit this child's learning circle.
My wife and I lived in the village. We will shift from the village to the city for better education of the children.
At that time our children had a son and a daughter. The son was six years old and the daughter was three years old.
After shifting to the city, we enrolled our son in the school. The school was close to home.
Our son would tell us what he learned from school.
Along with us, he would tell his sister everything he had learned from school.
At this point, information about our son began to arrive in our home. I was watching the whole process closely. Most of the information coming into the house through the son was being passed on to the daughter and the daughter would get more information about this information from me and my wife.
This process of children's learning continues through its various stages. One day our son and daughter will buy something from the general store near their house.
In the past, whenever the children went to the general store to buy something, they would come back in more time than that time, so I went out of the house to find out about them at the general store.
There were five houses between our house and the general store. I saw the children standing in front of the house in front of the general store holding each other's fingers.
They are not talking to each other and they are not moving. They are just standing in this house.
I found it very strange what was in the house that the children were watching.
I walked slowly closer to the children and was surprised to see that the children
In the front house, an elderly couple was watching. The elderly couple were so old that they did not know anyone was standing outside watching them
The two children had gone out of the house to buy something from the general store, but before the general store, these children would not only stop to see the elderly couple, but would also be unaware of the situation around them.
The children were listening to the elderly couple. There was a gate between the children and the elderly couple. The children could not enter through the gate and the elderly couple could not get up
and come out.
Seeing this scene made me realize how important it is for children to have adults in their home as well as learning materials. How much the children miss the absence of the elders in the house.
Because when I got home with the kids, these were the questions the kids asked me and my wife
Dad, where do these old people meet?
Why don't we have two elders in our house?
Why didn't these two elders talk to us?
Don't the elders talk to others?
Why do the elderly live on this side of the street?
You bring us elders too
We will also keep the elderly at home.
From these children's questions, I learned that a lot of knowledge is passed on from children to adults.
And the fact is that at the age of childbearing, parents also earn a living. It also takes time to make a living. At the same time, children are also needed and they want to have their own answers with them at all times so that they can ask everything.
What they want to ask. They can learn everything that children want to learn. It may not be so important in Western society, but in the East there is no denying it.
The parent and child unit exists in both societies. As members of this unit, we should benefit from each other's experiences.
Western society is wasting a great deal of knowledge by deeming this family system unnecessary.
Just because raising your own elders at home is an expensive task, but you can be sure that the elders at home are full-time coaches. There are full time teachers. There are machines for the elderly children in the house which are ready to tell and teach something to the children all the time.
These elders pass on their experience to future generations.
While a tutor can stay in your home just to teach your children for a fee?
Your answer will be no
In response to the children's questions, we would shift back from the city to the village where full-time elders were available to answer the children's questions. I have learned from this process that not all parents can pass on all the traits to their children. No one else can pass this part of, so I will tell the newlywed parents not to let the relationship break. Breaking this relationship will leave your children's learning incomplete.
Muhammad Aslam
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Emir of Katsina Illegally Marries Off Christian Teenager To Her Abductor
The Emir of Katsina, Abdulmumini Kabir, has illegally married off Aisha Mani, a Christian teenager, to her abductor, Mohammed Samaila, without her family's consent, Hausa Christian Foundation (HACFO) has alleged.
In a Facebook post, the foundation narrated how the Emir, in cahoots with the District Head of Kafur Local Government Area (LGA), Abdulrahman Rabe, conspired to perpetrate the unlawful act.
The report said Aisha Mani was married off to her abductor Mohammed Samaila by the monarch despite police efforts and a petition by a law firm.
Aisha's family was said to have relocated her from Gidan Dandada, Rafin Iyaka, to another relative in Funtua after they suspected romantic advances from Samaila.
However, the teenage girl was said to have gone missing from Funtua and after long hours of searching, the case was reported to the police.
"Two days later, on February 12, 2021, Aisha's parents received a call from the District Head of Kafur telling them to stop searching for Aisha because she is safe with him in his house. He claimed that one Idris Shehu brought her to his house," HACFO said.
Rabe was said to have disregarded her family's plea that she be returned and refused them access to see Aisha "on the ground that she wanted to convert to Islam."
The traditional ruler reportedly called Aisha's parents after ten days, stating that her abductor wanted to marry Aisha, but they refused, insisting that due process must be followed.
Subsequently, Rabe "went ahead to arrange a marriage between Aisha and Mohammed Samaila without the consent and approval of Aisha's Family."
"The Area Commander told the District Head not to go ahead with their marriage plans between Aisha and Mohammed Samaila, but the district head ignored it," the NGO said in its report, adding that the agreement was that Aisha be brought to the police station, one which the District Head ignored.
HACFO said the girl was instead taken to the Emir of Katsina the same day the district head was supposed to take her to the police station, adding that "on reaching there, the Emir of Katsina joined Aisha and Mohammed in marriage without the consent of her parents."
The group highlights that the incident was not the first time the predominantly Muslim community would be oppressing native Christian Hausas, forcefully abducting their daughters for marriage without parental or family consent.
According to the NGO, a total of nine girls have been abducted and forced into marriage. One of such ladies was said to have been returned after she ran mad, another returned dead, while another was returned to her parents with pregnancy.
Names of other abductees, according to the NGO, are Jamima Solomon, Christiana Mamman, Deborah Habila, Phoebe Dankano, Rifkatu Markus, Saratu Isah (Returned her when she went mad after two years), Dije Yakubu Nalami (Abducted as a married woman, and returned when she died), Rebeccah Ado (Returned Pregnant) and Aisha Mani (Currently in captivity).
The foundation alleged that crimes against Christians "are always swept under the carpet" in Rafin Iyaka Sabuwar Kasa, Kafur Local Government Area of Katsina.
It noted that despite a petition filed by lawyers to Aisha's parents to the police through the Malumfashi Area Command, demanding the arrest, investigation and prosecution of Rabe and Samaila, the police had done nothing to secure the release of Aisha.
HACFO claimed that Kabir and Rabe, on several occasions, abuse human rights and "do everything possible to stop the constitutionally recognised law enforcement agencies like the police from rightly carrying out their statutory duties."
The NGO claimed that Mr Rabe had been involved in supporting similar acts right from the time of his father, who died years ago and "is also backed by the Emir of Katsina."
When contacted on the telephone by Peoples Gazette, the state's police spokesperson, Gambo Isa, claimed he was not aware of the incident.
"I'm not aware of the matter; I don't know because it was reported by an NGO if it is something reported by a tabloid…, but I cannot confirm the NGO's report," Mr Isa said.
Efforts to reach the HACFO proved abortive.
Ibrahim Bindawa, the spokesman to the Emir of Katsina, promised to get back to The Gazette when reached for comments on the matter Saturday morning.
"I am reciting the holy Quran, please. I will get back to you in the next one hour," he said.
Bindawa did not revert as promised, hours later.
Yoruba Groups Clash Over Creation Of Oduduwa Republic
Two Yoruba groups on Saturday clashed over the demand for the creation of Oduduwa Republic from the present Nigerian state.
While some leaders under the banner of the Ilana Omoodua Youth Initiatives, led by a Yoruba leader, Professor Banji Akintoye, insisted on having Oduduwa Republic for the Yoruba nation, another group under the auspice of Yoruba Welfare Group (YWG), disagreed with the position.
The secretary of the Ilana Omooduwa Youth Initiatives, Dr. Akin Adejumo, who represented Professor Banji Akintoye at a Yoruba mega rally held at Mapo, Ibadan, the Oyo State capital, yesterday, insisted that the breakup of Nigeria was imminent.
Adejumo said the nation was not working and there was a need for Nigerians to go back to the drawing board and make a profitable decision for their people.
But the National President of Yoruba Welfare group (YWG), Comrade Abdulhakeem Adegoke Alawuje, on Saturday insisted that those clamouring for Oodua Republic cannot decide for the Yoruba people.
Speaking with Daily Post in Lagos, the group blasted the secession advocates, accusing them of attempting to destroy the peace, love and harmony of Yoruba land.
Alawuje warned them to desist from such advocacy, saying, “We are issuing a last warning to those behind the political agitation to stop all this rubbish in our land. Yoruba land cannot be a testing ground for any form of criminal act.
“YWG is calling all traditional rulers in Yoruba land to call these people to order, because it will not favour all of us to start mobilising against ourselves in the same region.”
